Sometimes I need to wash my dog, and he really hates it. It is always a bit of a painful experience for both of us. Where is the truth here ? From my perspective the truth is that he stinks and must be washed for his own good. So better he recognises this truth and does not obstruct the washing.
Or maybe, from his point of view, the truth is that it’s scary to be pushed and pulled into the shower. And it is very true to him. As in any relationship, we realise that it does not matter who is right and who is wrong.
What matters is that by overcoming fatigue and laziness I can, out of love, try to make it a less painful experience for the dog, by creating an atmosphere of peace and care during the washing. And this experience becomes so real and true.
As the paradox reveals we can only be true to ourselves and that being right about something is meaningless. In our ordinary lives it is something very difficult to let go of.
There is this film by Nuri Bilge Ceylan The Wild Pear Tree (Ahlat Ağacı), 2018, where the character is very mad at his father, who is a gambler and who spends all the money on gambling. And at some point some money disappeared from the house, and the character suspected his father, but could never find out.
It looks like the anger and resentment of the character towards his father is justified. As an audience we share the urge to learn the truth about who took that money.
But in the end there is this subtle moment, when all of us, the audience and the character, we both feel that it does not matter who took that money.
Something else became more important to that character, who in the end comes to be close to his father.